Voss — the emotion is the negotiation, and the cost of winning it repeatedly

Voss — the emotion is the negotiation, and the cost of winning it repeatedly
Written by Peruze

The reasoning arrives after the feeling does. So the feeling is the thing being negotiated. Which works beautifully once. The tools were shaped for a room you leave. Nobody built them for the table you sit at again tomorrow.

What it says

You can win every point and still lose.

So we stop leading with the numbers.

We name how the other side is feeling first.

And the numbers land, because nothing is defending against them.

But the tenth time, we notice they agree quicker and mean it less.

This was built for one hard room, once.

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